Day 13: Stretching (just a bit)
These kids...sometimes I just have to wonder how we all ended up together in this family. I mean, I know HOW we ended up here...but I guess I mean, I wonder why. With the boy, it's obvious to me that we both got what we could handle when we could handle it. Lots of butting heads and emotionally bumping up against each other as we learned how to communicate with each other. It certainly wasn't the easy way, but we were (and continue to be) winging it to some extent. There's no looking for the parenting lesson when it comes to our boy..the lesson comes looking for you, and often times knocks you squarely in your jaw just to drive the point home. When the girl came along we had finally kind of caught our stride with the boy (he was 4). I have 3 younger siblings: 2 brothers and sister. We'll just say that Auntie (the sister) was quite the tomboy in her youth, as I had been myself. Growing up that way I just assumed that childhood was full of rough and tumble, skinned knees, dirty nails and all around ragamuffiny behavior. Having the girl really threw my understanding of childhood play for a loop. Now...don't get me wrong, she can climb trees with the best of them and she plays first base like a champ, but there is this whole other part of her that is so foreign to me. I marvel at her accessories and sparkle. She begged me to curl her hair this weekend, but not until she put on her red velvet dress. She loves dangly earrings and polished fingernails, lipsmackers and bobby socks trimmed in lace. Huh? These are the types of things I rejected out of hand when I was her age. But isn't that the way? There has to be something, right? Something that makes you stretch a bit in your understanding of your children...something to be accepting of and amused by at the same time. I guess it's teaching them that you can love a person even when sometimes you don't exactly 'get' them. I know there's plenty of times they don't 'get' me, so it's nice to have a lesson you can laugh at together sometimes.